"How Do You Self-Care?"

The other day I was in a meeting, and someone asked me, “What is your idea of self-care?” 

“What do you mean self-care? Are you asking about my idea of self-care in general or for me specifically? How I personally take self-care?” I asked. 

 “Yes. What do you do to take care of self?” 

 No one has ever asked me that question before. To be honest, I was quite surprised and a little impressed. 

‘Wow,’ I thought, ‘did she just ask me that? Does she really care?’ 

I was taken aback by the question. I didn’t think or realize that other people cared about my personal care and how I take care of myself when things get tough. 

 “Yoga, tea and music,” I replied. 

 “Wow, that’s very holistic and healthy,” she replied back.


I’ve spent many years trying to understand and process my feelings. It was a hard journey, but I was able to make it through. I spent the last two years trying to understand what would help me and make things better. Yoga was my answer. I have been drinking tea since I was a young child, so tea has always been a part of my life. In fact, I love tea so much that whenever I travel I buy tea. As I got older and became an adult, I started to experiment with different types of tea and how each one made me feel. I have different teas for different concerns and moods. This started to become the only piece of peace that I had during my day. It got to a point where if I didn’t have tea I would go crazy. 


Yoga saved me in so many ways. Yoga taught me how to focus, still my mind, breathe and think about nothing. Yes, nothing. When I practice yoga I don’t worry about any of the other things that are going on in my life. I am transformed to a different place.


To me, having a self-care regimen is the only way to make through life. I tell one of my friends all the time that she needs to find an activity or habit that will allow her to decompress and distress. If anxiety and tension is never released it doesn’t have anywhere to go and it remains bottled up inside of you. That is not healthy. This will eventually lead to depression and mental breakdowns. You will have a difficult time making decisions and understanding what is healthy in your life. Behaviors that are toxic will begin to look and feel normal. A path of destruction is waiting ahead.


Lately, I’ve been feeling a little discouraged. I sometimes feel that things are not going as planned or my way. I never let these feelings get to me. It’s not easy to dismiss these feelings, but because I have a self-care regimen I can combat the societal triggers that I am faced with on a daily basis. I often have to remind myself that I cannot control everything that occurs in my life. It is impossible. When bad or unexpected things happen, I do not dwell, I work around them and find ways to prevent them from happening again, if I can. This process hasn’t always been this easy for me. It is just beginning to get easier. This was only possible because I found ways to take care of my mind and body. We have a duty to ourselves to find ways to make the stress go away. I challenge all of my family and friends, and those that I do not know, to make a commitment to find a way to escape. How do you self-care?


By: Rachel M. Roberts via EIC Le'Keshia Smith