I ran across this term via Judge Lynn of Divorce Court. It sums up my pass relationship perfectly. Having been in a long term relationship and then going through a difficult breakup it was hard to understand why this was happening as well as what to do next. I had never been in this situation before and I didn’t know at the time how to deal with everything that was going on. It was hard to see the silver lining at the time. I was dealing with rejection, the lost a relationship and the plans for my future now taking an unexpected turn. This was not supposed to happen.
But as time went on and on and on (because this was definitely not an overnight process) I started to feel, hmmm what the word, Free! I started to appreciate being rejected. Although it’s hard and hurts because of the time spent and the love that was there. Being rejected or shall I say being freed, from someone who does not appreciate you is so much better.
Just think of the things you can do now that you don’t have to think about someone else. I, for example always wanted a purple comforter set for my bed but thought it was too girly for a man. Now I get all the purple comforter sets I want (it’s the little things you know) or not having to think about what to cook for the other person and if they’re going to like it. I eat what I want! Who’s going to say something, nobody! Ok, maybe my mom.
So while breaking up is hard to do, and it can be even harder when it wasn’t your choice to do so. Remember that there is so much more on the other side of all of this and that time does actually help with the healing process. I had to figure this out the hard way, but once I did I embraced being involuntarily emancipated.
I want to leave you with 2 things: my mom told and also Judge Lynn said: “Don’t ever let a man (or woman) tell you more than once that they don’t want you”. Also something my pastor said “While you’re sitting there crying about why that person left you, you need to be sending them a Thank You note for freeing you”.
Food for thought:
What was the benefit of being Involuntarily Emancipated from a relationship? How did this change your outlook on your future?
By: Ayesha Wallace via EIC Le'Keshia Smith