"Starting Over"

I’ve been having a lot of conversations with friends lately about relationships, who we’re dating, how our love lives are going, or lack thereof. Some of us are casually dating, looking for a long term relationship, or are taking a quick break from dating. I will admit that I am taking a break. I may have mentioned this in some of my earlier posts. I left my old job in February and started looking for a new job. I found a new position that I love. I am so happy that I waited and took my time to find the right position because the organization that I work for is amazing. With that being said, I want to take full advantage of the changes that are currently taking place in my life. Now is my starting over point.


Going into my new position I wanted to start with a clear head and focused mind. I wanted to get rid of all of the toxicity in my life, whether that be old habits, things or people. I started this journey first with people. I only want people actively in my life that exude positive energy. I am happier than ever before and I would like to keep it that way. Along with people are relationships. I know longer want to be involved in relationships that are a waste of time, or relationships that I know are not going anywhere. I no longer see a point in wasting valuable time with people that ultimately do not matter and will not have a place in my life.


I truly believe that there are times in our lives, when the stars are aligned, when things naturally point to one direction. I take instances like this as a sign that it is time for me to make a change, for me, that change was starting over in all aspects of my life. I feel that I am at a point in my life where I can make a fresh start and focus on more of the things in my life that I once let fall through the cracks, and are important to me.


I can remember precisely when this idea hit me. I left my old job and knew I wanted to do more of what “Rachel wanted to do!” I wasn’t yet committed to my “starting over” phase. The first thing I did was go on a solo backpacking trip in Europe. This was very new for me; I was a little nervous to be quite honest. The best thing that I like about myself is that I’ve never been afraid to do things that I want to do. This trip was just the beginning to my new start.


On the outside everything seemed to be perfect – I saved money, traveled through Europe for almost two months and was able to take a much needed break. But, there were a lot of things that were still missing. I had a passion for community service and needed to be more involved in my community. So, the first thing I did as a part of my plan was dedicate myself to community service. This is something that I knew would make me happy.


The best things I can say is that I was not stuck. I felt stuck, but I knew there was a way out. I am happy that I did not allow society’s standards to hold me back from doing what I truly wanted to do. That’s why starting over and following a new path that leads down a unique journey was the right thing for me. I knew that I would be judged by others, so that’s what I expected. I didn’t care. As long as I was happy I was fine. I knew my immediate family would be supportive and wouldn’t question my decisions. For the first time in life, I thought about my hopes and dreams. I created several bucket list and plan on completing them all. That’s why the instant shove I was given was a sign from the universe. I was meant to find and follow my passions. The only problem was that I didn’t know what they were right away. If I had not taken a leap I may have never found out. I could have missed out on my potential.


I write all of this to say that it is never too soon or too late to start over. If you don’t like the direction of the way things are going in your life you have the power to start over and make a change. I am not saying that doing this is going to be easy. It depends on how far you are in your career, financially obligations and familiar responsibilities. Do not let life go by and all you can ever say for yourself is that you settled. The time to make a fresh start is NOW.


By: Rachel M. Roberts via Le'Keshia Smith