I recently came across an article by Madame Noire called “9 signs of a bored guy who’s wasting your time”.  Since becoming single, I have had my share of talking/dating guys who made it obvious that they were going to waste my time. Some guys I have come across who didn’t make it so obvious, but in the long run turned out to do the same.  So when I saw the article by Madame Noire, needless to say, I didn’t hesitate to click and read.  Besides blunt signs that a guy is wasting your time, I was curious to learn what the other signs were.


Here are a few of the signs that really resonated with me:


“His texts are more routine that romantic”. ie: “Good morning beautiful. Have a good day”, “Hey beautiful. How was your day?”, “Have a good night beautiful.” For me personally, I don’t like to be called beautiful all the time. I mean why state the obvious. Every once in a while is okay, but I feel like these are the standard texts that guys send just to keep you on hold.


“It takes more than 2 weeks for him to set up a date”; I agree with this. It shouldn’t take too long to start the ball rolling with someone you’re actually interested in.


“His initial conversation is filled with sexual innuendo”: OMG! I once talked to a guy who first messaged me online. When we had our first over the phone conversation it was nothing but sex driven by him.  Keep in mind, we hadn’t even met yet and we never did. After that conversation, I was done.


“He flakes on pseudo plans”: This is a real pet peeve of mine. I understand things happen. The very least you can do is to not keep doing it or try to make up for failed plans. Clearly, you don’t care.


So as you can see, I’ve had my share of #wastehertime2016, and 2015, and 2014. Let’s just be up front people. We are all adults here, but I guess some of us just look like adults and act like children. I feel like I need to walk around with a sign saying “If you’re looking to waste my time please keep walking”. If you feel like your time is being wasted more than likely it is. Life is too short, and your worth is too great to allow someone to waste it.


Can you add to the list of signs your time is being wasted?


How long did it take for you to realize your time was being wasted?


By: Ayesha Wallace via EIC Le'Keshia Smith