"Keys to a Lasting Relationship"
There are some things that I’ve found to be helpful in order to build a lasting relationship. Whether the relationship is a romantic one or a friendship it takes work from both parties to make it work. Although, I myself have not always been the best at following these guidelines (God is still working on me). I look back at some situations and can’t help but to think what if I had did more of this. Could the relationship have been saved? So here are some things in my opinion no good relationship can thrive without:
Okay, so believe it or not, I am not the best at communicating. I, a lot of times would hold things in trying not to hurt a person’s feelings, or worst get my feelings hurt. Now, I am at the point where I let my feelings be known, but I think the key to this is to do it in an effective way. Not talking at the person, but to the person. Tell them as calmly as you possibly can how you feel. Yelling and possibly saying something in the heat of the moment that you may later on regret can make the situation worst to the point where no one wants to communicate.
Many times people are just misunderstood. I can relate! The thing is people just try to get their point across, but don’t try to understand where the other person is coming from. Try to put the effort into understanding a person. It doesn’t necessarily mean you will agree with them, and that’s okay. Just don’t make them feel less than for how they feel. Listening when a person is talking is key as well. Like really listen! Take a moment to let what the person has said soak in. Too often people are too busy preparing for a rebuttal that they miss what is being said.
Don’t hold a Grudge:
This is a real pet peeve of mine. I hate to hold grudges. We can argue in the morning and by the afternoon I can have lunch with you like nothing happened. Reason being, I feel that life is too short and if you are really close with a person why stay angry for so long. Now I understand that it’s not always that easy and people can really make you upset. I’m just saying try not to go weeks (or years) holding on to anger towards a person. How many times have people held on to anger towards a person only to have something happen? Now you realize how stupid it was to hold a grudge. Not to mention you may have forgotten why you were mad in the first place.
Again, I express my lack thereof. I want, what I want, and it should have happen yesterday. Even with these tips sometimes you have to just sit back and let things play out. Sometimes people do need time to realize things on their own. In the meantime, continue to work on yourself. If the relationship is meant to be, it will.
I’m pretty sure you have heard these things before, but sometimes we may need to be reminded of them. Relationships can be hard, but they shouldn’t be stressful. Hopefully being reminded of these things can make your relationship more enjoyable.
What are things you have found to be helpful in building a strong relationship?
What is something you have had to work on within yourself to make a relationship better?
By: Ayesha Wallace via EIC Le'Keshia Smith