Love: What is it really?



“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonour others, it is not self seeking, it is not easily angered, and it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, and always perseveres. “1 Corinthians 13:4-7


I’ve read this verse so many times over the years, and yet I have yet to truly what love really is, because everything written there is often things we don’t see or receive. Love in it’s truest form is meant to be given and shared without the expectation of it being returned. The purest form of love, as far-fetched as it may sound, comes without expectations.  


“love does not delight in evil but rejoices in truth”; is great in theory but practically it has proven to be difficult. Human beings are complex – a person may proclaim that they love you, and still silently wish nothing but pain and harm on you simply because things didn’t pan out in the manner that they expected it to. A simple example of this is how many people are with their partner for a long period of time, they grow into loving them and yet, suddenly when the relationship ends – regardless of the reason, they wish negativity over their previous partners’ lives. Why is that? Is pain such a powerful tool, that you now live in a state where you have forgotten that at some point you wished to be in their lofe long enough to watch them pursue and live out their dreams? 


Love… “It keeps no record of wrongs”; and yet when we don’t get our way we are quick to remind people of their faults and the way in which they have done us wrong. We remind them of their faults, we remind them of how they failed us and remind them that we haven’t truly forgiven them.  If this was really the case, if we really had moved past it, why do we remind people of how they hurt us? Is it such a difficult position to be in to be truthfully honest? Why do we allow ourselves to say and pretend that we are truly over something when we know that we aren’t? 


Love is meant to be everything that is quoted in the aboveforementioned, but we are nothing close to it. A heart that genuinely loves will not be so easily angered without atleast attemptint to understand, the main problem is that we are evil; we want the truth but hate hearing the truth. We are not patient and quick to end it if things do not work out in the time frame we decided on. We want to be in control and struggle with dealing with the fact that we won’t always be in control. We forget that we need to be kind, because we want it our way without caring about the other person. As I sit here under the night sky, I find myself puzzled at the definition of love and I find myself asking, WHAT IS LOVE REALLY?


Love, a real honest pure love – will leave you in a euphoric state. You will find yourself releasing your guard, consistently happy and feeling safe. Love is finding yourself happy, even when you’re alone and accepting yourself – flaws and all. It is accepting that you never meet a person who is one hundred percent perfect, but they know how to love you regardless of what annoys them about you. Love is having the patience, respect and honesty to understand that things may not always be great, but they can get better only if you both want them to. Love is understanding that even when a relationship – of any kind – has failed, that you still find it in your heart to wish them nothing but the best. Love is being able to hurt, cry, trust and love again. It is the willingness to stand bare in front of someone and allowing them to see ALL OF YOU. 


Love could in it’s purest form really be defined as this: “I wanna feel so naked in front of a man that my soul feels like his heart is home. That he sees every fiber of my being in every single way.” @LeratoMannya


If you sit and really thought about it: What does LOVE really mean to you?


Written by Valentine Madzhie

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