Part 1: My Love Isn't Color Blind
So, I met this guy right....
A phrase often shared in excitement between girlfriends when at least one of them is single and I just happen to be as "single as a dollar bill". I guess that means today you will be playing the role of my girlfriend because I'm going to tell you all about him. So, his name is Kevin and I actually shared about him in my last post, yet here I am bringing him up again because he became a "first" for me. Yass girl, Kevin was the first man to ask me out on a date who wasn't Black. Now in case you didn't know, I am Black Canadian and my parents are also Canadian citizens, however they were born in the beautiful island of Jamaica. Now you also need to remember that I live in one of the most multicultural cities in the world (shout out Toronto aka #The6ix) and I've been dating for almost 15 years. So when you consider those two factors it's kind of surprising that this didn't happen sooner. (Make that three factors, I'm super awesome).
Anyway, back to Kevin. He's a concierge and law student and not Black. He's cute. He's about 5'10 with olive skin, facial hair in the form of a goatee and he wears glasses (which I really like), but he's not Black. I find him to be confident but not in an intimidating way, which is great because I love a confident man. I find him funny and witty, in fact he asked me out in a creative way, using his position at work to ask me out. Overall he's the perfect guy... but he's not Black. Now I'm not saying that the "perfect" guy is Black, but I'm wondering if the "perfect guy for me must be, because I can't seem to get over the fact that he's not and trust me I tried really, really hard. When it comes to anything else in this world where I would need to develop a relationship with someone, such as co workers or friendships, the colour of his/her skin doesn't play a factor in it to me at all. However, when it comes to romance, race appears to be a hurdle I can't jump over.What do you think about interracial dating?
Do you have tips on how to make an interracial relationship work?
Please share your thoughts with me:
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* Don't forget to look out for part 2 where I will share some of the tips I received.
Until then, peace, love and happiness!