BIG GIRLS DON'T CRY

Big girls don't cry?

Some say women are more emotional than men. I'm not sure if this is true but personally I think that both men and women are pretty close together in their emotional feelings. I do however believe that women tend to express their emotions differently than men. When it comes to feeling sad, after a breakup for example, men seem to "thrust" into recovery quite quickly, pun intended! Dudes get up and get out. Women are believed to tend to stay in, eat ice cream & watch sad movies that make them even sadder until they cry themselves to sleep.... or maybe that's just me?
Well that was me but that's not me anymore because "big girls don't cry”… right?

Don't get me wrong; I'm not coming down on anyone for the way they choose to express their emotions... I'm just all cried out and I'm not trying to invest more time in that place than absolutely necessary. I'm also not saying that I never cry either. I'm just saying I'm developing a new way to "get over it" whatever that "it" may be. Now this is still a work in progress for me. I'm transitioning, so here's what I've started to do when emotionally upset in a way that for me once warranted tears:

1. CRY (lol don't fight it...)

~ ...But only for a minute or two!
I literally sit in front of a clock and time myself. Once time is up, so am I!

2. IDENTIFY

~ What exactly am I upset about and what can I do to change it?

3. FLY

~ Basically get productive in changing what I can control, as well as the other components of my life.

So far these three steps mentioned above have really helped me to stop crying and start living with a more balanced approach! It's not the locked away with a box of tissue method or on the other side, it's not avoiding your feelings with distractions. It's somewhere in the middle and it's empowering! I encourage you to try it the next time you feel the water works coming on.

Big girls don't cry... excessively! 

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